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Truthfully? I have no idea. What works for one reunion might not work for another. The measure of what makes an adoption reunion successful really does depend on the parties involved and how they

À 49 ans Monica n'a jamais rencontré ses parents biologiques. Elle fait partie de ces enfants que l'on a arrachés à leur mère à la naissance. Ils seraient près de 30 000 dans son cas en Belgique, nés entre les années 50 et 80, notamment en Flandre.

Chacun a ses secrets. Je recueille petites, grandes et lourdes histoires soigneusement cachées.

ADOPTEE RAGE! ADOPTEE'S Raised By Narcissistic Adoptive Mothers The complexed problems of Adopted children with all of the expected emotional Issues that are common in the Adoptees detachment of the replacement relationship. The addition of an Adoptive Narcissistic Mother is an unfortunate prevalence and standard among U.S. adopters.

This is "Bande-annonce Spartacus & Cassandra" by Nour Films on Vimeo, the home for high quality videos and the people who love them. Synopsis
Spartacus, jeune Rrom de 13 ans et sa soeur Cassandra, 10 ans sont recueillis dans le chapiteau-squat de Camille, une drôle de fée trapéziste qui prend soin d’eux, leur offre un toit et leur montre le chemin de l’école. Mais le cœur des enfants est déchiré entre l’avenir qui s’offre à eux… Et leurs parents qui vivent encore dans la rue.

Ioanis Nuguet a passé trois ans auprès des Rroms de Seine-Saint-Denis. A la froide observation de leur vie, le jeune cinéaste préfère un film documentaire à « hauteur d’enfants », constitué de la somme de leurs regards, sentiments, pensées… Son cinéma direct en plans séquences s’ouvre à la fantaisie, à la musique, au Super 8, aux photos et animations, libre comme le slam de Spartacus. L’histoire de deux enfants qui, au bout de l’engrenage judiciaire, comprennent qu’à défaut de pouvoir sauver leurs parents, ils peuvent décider de se sauver eux-mêmes. Cruel dilemme pour ces petits héros dignes des frères Grimm, qui vont apprendre ce qu’il en coûte de prendre leur destin en main, et d’abandonner leurs parents au bord du chemin… Ioanis Nuguet compose avec empathie un « conte documentaire » à la fois tendre et rude, réaliste et poétique. Où dépassant la fonction de sujets-témoins de l’enfance rrom, Spartacus et Cassandra nous offrent la possibilité d’expérimenter l’absolue singularité de leur vie. Et de devenir les témoins de leur combat pour trouver une place dans ce monde qui souvent les rejette, pour rompre avec cette fatalité qui voudrait qu’ils n’aient d’autre existence que celle qu’on leur réserve, à la lisière de la société. Etre enfant, comme leur dit Camille, c’est continuer de rêver à une vie meilleure.

Here is what we submitted last year to the indian government. It reflects cleary our position. One has to note that the adoption agencies are keen on having a c...ase of a mother who complains that she was contacted by her now grown up child. This will enable them to close the doors forever. The general indian adoptee community doesn´t take this into account. Neither do they actually understand and take into account the actual and real life situations of the women who are / where once their mothers. Of course there are luckily adoptee´s who are exceptional. Comment reg. new Indian law von Arun Dohle, Mittwoch, 2. Juli 2014 um 14:47 Dear Madam, / Sir We are all members of the adoption community. We are informally organized in a social media group called 'Indian Adoptee Rights and Roots Searches.' Many of us have been separated from our families in India by intercountry adoption. As adult adopted people, many of us have searched for our Indian families. Sadly, we are unable to be successful due to several reasons: a)Lack of cooperation from adoption agencies, orphanages b)Lack of records c)Lack of proper original birth registration d)Lack of assistance by foreign adoption agencies and Central Authorities e)Lack of any structural assistance to adoptees. f) Fuzzy and fudged records g)Bad record keeping h)Lost records Therefore, we request you to enshrine the following adoptee rights in the JJACT: a)Mandatory birth registration for every child (original birth) b)Record keeping of adoption files for at least 60 years c)Unrestricted access to records/adoption proceedings for adult adopted people and adoptive parents d)All adopted related information to be handed over to the adoptive parents at the time of adoption. e)In case of roots search, a child welfare officer should assist the adopted person or adoptive parents f) In case of a case of an unmarried mother, the adopted person or adoptive family shall be allowed to access the records along with a child welfare officer or with a qualified (Indian MSW) Social worker Search for Origins : Birth Certificates: The UNCRC article 7 states: “The child shall be registered immediately after birth and shall have the right from birth to a name, the right to acquire a nationality and, as far as possible, the right to know and be cared for by his or her parents.” We propose that the agency should be required to register the birth of the child, directly after birth and/or when the child comes into the orphanages and a certificate about that has to be issued. A second Birth Certificate could be issued after the Adoption just listing the adoptive parents as parents. Both Certificates should be part of the records and should be given to the adoptive parents and, of course, made available to the adopted person.The Hague Convention’s Guide to Good Practice states under 2.1: “non-discrimination of any kind, irrespective of the child's or his parents or legal guardians race, colour, sex, language, religion, political or other opinion, national, ethnic or social origin, property, disability, birth or other status; “ In most receiving states, adult adopted people have the explicit right to know the identity of their biological parents. 'But if after attaining the age of maturity, the child wants to know about its biological parents, there may not be any serious objections to the giving of such information and in such a case, the foreign adoptive parents may, in exercise of such discretion, furnish such information to the child if they so think fit.' According to the Indian law, (JJACT) and the above quoted Supreme Court Judgement from 1984, nothing bars adult adopted people from knowing the identity of our biological parents. Some of us, even when born to single mothers, have conducted successful searches. The reunion was uniformly positive. Not in a single case was the life of the mother jeopardized. In some cases a beautiful and sustained contact was established. We understand the issue and stigma attached to unwed motherhood but can see no harm if the mother is discreetly traced and contacted by an independent qualified social worker (MSW) appointed by the adopted person/adoptive family. Therefore we demand that the adult adopted person, accompanied by an independent, qualified social worker, or child welfare officer has a right to access each and every document related to his/her adoption, at any place where such documents are kept. It's important that adopted people are able choose an independent social worker since agencies have often demonstrate a lack of cooperation and a conflict of interest. Many adult adopted people have been lied to by facilitators whose priority is to arrange the child's separation from natural family and into homes of foreign families. Post Adoption Services Adoptions from India have taken place since about 40 years. There are a large number of adoptees worldwide and consequently post adoption services have become very important. The Hague Convention states in Article 7 that Central Authorities should: 'c) promote the development of adoption counseling and post-adoption services in their States; in Article 30: (1) The competent authorities of a Contracting State shall ensure that information held by them concerning the child's origin, in particular information concerning the identity of his or her (original) parents, as well as the medical history, is preserved. (2) They shall ensure that the child or his or her representative has access to such information, under appropriate guidance, in so far as is permitted by the law of that State.' The Hague Guide to Good Practise says on page 83: “Post-adoption services are almost always performed by receiving States, although in search and reunion cases, States of origin may also wish to establish services for adult adoptees.” Unjustly, CARA leaves all Post Adoption work to the placement agencies, which is a conflict of interest for these organizations. Our unfortunate experience is that the placement agencies as well as the foreign agencies are refuse to fully cooperative at the adult adopted person's request for birth records. Post adoption work and counseling for all triad members need to be available independently from agencies. We appreciate that CARA acknowledges our right to our origins but based from previous experiences, many adult adopted people lack the financial resources to travel to overseas to search and reconnect with our Indian families and communities. Rather, the adult adoptee's perception of our birth country is based on a foreigner's perspective, or passed down myths and heresay. We kindly request the Government of India to set up a system which gives adult adopted people the right to return to our Country of Birth. We also would like to have the opportunity, support and cooperation to set up an independent organization run by adult adopted people specifically for adult adopted people who return to our Country of Birth--be it just for a visit, an in depth search for roots, a reunion or even to settle in India. Similar support organizations have been set up in other countries and have been resoundingly helpful to returning adoptees (e.g. GOAL in South Korea). Right now, for the growing Indian adult adopted population, there is nowhere to turn to for aid and assistance, apart from the often non-cooperative agencies.Due to adoption agencies' (and those who profess to speak for adult adopted people) failure to continue the 'best interest of the child,' overseas adopted people are continuously abandoned from our birthplace--even into adulthood. The isolation and lack of post adoption services can no longer be tolerated.
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Adoption curiosity begins with the understanding of what it means to have been adopted and grows with knowledge of biology, birth and genetics. No matter how loved, happy and content, the adopted child grows up wondering why they were placed for adop...

Dear Amy: Periodically you run letters from adopted people searching for their birth families.