Adoptionland

Infants Have Heightened Vulnerability to Losses and Fear / Understanding the Child’s Behaviors Overall: The anger, aggressions, and many of the challenging behaviors help the child avoid underlying, vulnerable feelings of loss, hurt, sadness, and fear.
~ Debra Wesselmann , MS, LIMHP

Today it's my delight to introduce Corie Skolnick, author of the book, Orfan. Many readers here will already know Corie and be familiar with her work as a licensed therapist, professor and author. In addition to Orfan, Corie was most recently a contributor to Adoption Reunion in the Social Media Age.
~ Adoptee Restoration

Trauma and wounding from the loss of their mother and family * Adoption Stigma * Criticism for searching * Identity issues * Attachment issues * Mirroring issues * Feelings of rejection and abandonment * Feeling obligated to show gratitude all their lives * Low levels of self worth * Difficulties | Origins Canada

The child who is placed with adoptive parents at or soon after birth misses the mutual and deeply satisfying mother-child relationship, the roots of which lie in that deep area of the personality where the physiological and psychological are merged. Both for the child and for the natural mother, that period is part of a biological sequence, and it is to be doubted whether the relationship to it's post-partum mother, in it's subtler effects, can be replaced by even the best of substitute mothers.
~ by Florence Clothier MD., 1943

Today it's my delight to introduce Corie Skolnick, author of the book, Orfan. Many readers here will already know Corie and be familiar with her work as a licensed therapist, professor and author. In addition to Orfan, Corie was most recently a contributor to Adoption Reunion in the Social Media Age.
~ Adoptee Restoration

Nancy Verrier is the author of the Primal Wound. The mother of an adopted daughter and a biological daughter, Verrier's groundbreaking book changed the way we think about the far-reaching consequences of adoption.

Very insightful lecture by Paul Sunderland

When the adoptee is separated from her mother, she undergoes extensive trauma. She will not remember this trauma, but it will stay in her subconsious as she lived it (Verrier, 1993)
by Vicki M. Running

Attempted suicide is more common among adolescents who live with adoptive parents than among adolescents who live with biological parents.

Gail Slap, MD,
Elizabeth Goodman, MD,
Bin Huang, MS

The Darker Side of the Adoption Story This month's theme has to do with the effects of adoption on the adoptee and the adoption issues that most people in the adoption community don't want to talk about.
Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem issues, Reactive attachment disorder (RAD), Post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), Identity development, General feelings of grief, loss, and rejection
Jane Ballback

The Psychology of Adoption Trauma and the Primal Wound In her preface to The Primal Wound, Nancy Newton Verrier states her naivetée when adopting her daughter. She was like most others; undermining and discounting the very child that she was promising to love and care for.

Post-adoption issues are similar to PTSD, in fact in come cases unaddressed post-adoption issues can turn into PTSD. Losing one’s heritage, mother, ethnicity and biology — it’s a loss, for some the way in which the adoption occurred is a traumatic event.
~ Laura Dennis

Children should have an absolute right to know who they are March 2014 SOURCE Ireland By Victoria White PRESIDENT Higgins was completely right to highlight the outrage that is the denial of birth records to adopted people at the launch of his Ethics Initiative this week.

Children who are separated from their mothers early in life have different issues to deal with than those who are kept and cared for by their mothers. The relationship with the mother is the cornerstone for all future relationships. We are mammals and are meant to be close to our mothers in our early years. (Just watch Animal Planet and see how mothers and babies interact.)

All mammals know their own mothers through all their senses. Therefore when a baby is immediately taken from the bio mom and handed over to another mom, the baby is confused and disoriented. “Where is mom?” The new mom doesn’t pass the “sensory test.” She doesn’t sound right, or smell right, or feel right, or have the right resonance or energy. The infant becomes disregulated.
Nancy Verrier

For all the things that are written and told about adoption, few are true. As a reunited adult adoptee I hope to shed as much light on this issue as possible within my lifetime. If asked by anyone considering adoption "Is adoption a good choice"? My answer unreservedly would be "NO".

Adoption does permanent harm to children. It effects them forever. It causes low self-esteem, identity problems, fear, trust issues, grief, anger and a lifetime of not feeling secure. That is the truth that is what baby brokers will NOT tell you. That is what I will share as an adoptee and as someone who has worked with adoptees for 11 years. Adoption is the only thing that I know of that makes strangers family bound in secrets and lies, and families strangers by the same secrets and lies. I hope for anyone reading this that they hear the truth. Adoption is not good for children!

Anne Patterson