When You're Broken DOWN After a Break Up

You may have heard of this in the news via a few celebrity breakups but there is a reason people are gravitating towards Katherine Woodward Thomas around relationship advice. Her program is meant to guide participants through a unique step-by-step process that will help you navigate the challenging terrain of the “break up” with grace, clarity and personal healing.

It's great stuff - and it's audio so you can listen whenever and wherever you can. Again - this is hard work but very worthwhile.

You're trying to get over your ex, yet you're still in touch and have ended up being their back-up plan. Maybe you haven't left yet, but you want to and just don't know how. Maybe you're tired of doing the lather, rinse, repeat of getting back together and winding back at square one.

It's time to cut contact.

This guide from Natalie Lue is the perfect start to exploring what no contact can be for you and how it can help in your process of letting go of your ex.

We think Susan Elliott is a genius. Great No Contact advice, she really focuses on how the time during your breakup recovery can be the most powerful time to change your life for the better.

This book from Howard Bronson and Mike Riley will help get you on the right track from the very beginning of your breakup. And if it's something that you've been struggling with getting over for a while - pick this up and commit to the 30 days and see how far it can take you.

Love this from Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt. Their witty and straight talking advice will remind you of just what the title says - it was broken in some way shape or form. This will help you get in in touch with that so you can move on.

Pema Chodron has a beautiful practicality in her writings that can really put you in touch with your spiritual side.

Buddhist followers and those of you that have explored your spirituality will find her advice on healing from your breakup really uplifting...we did.

It’s one of those long “how to guide” posts except it kind of makes fun of long how-to guide posts and doesn't take itself seriously. After all, who the hell writes 63 steps to anything? Well, apparently Mark Manson did. It's fun. Some silliness mixed in with real, credible advice for dealing with the hard times in your life.

Give this a read when you're feeling really bad to get some much needed perspective.

We found that hypnosis recordings can be really helpful when your mind just won't give you any peace. Especially helpful at night when you're not sleeping well. Nice that you can download them to your phone too so can listen wherever you are.

A Breakup. There is not much that feels worse than heartache from ending a romantic relationship. Although it feels awful right now, trust that you will be okay (and are okay even if you don't feel like it). Not all romantic relationships are supposed to last forever.

Christine Hassler has this and other articles and breakup tips on her site for when you need some inspiration.

Mandy Hale does an amazing job at helping us answer the question: Do we cling to a situation that’s taking us under out of fear of letting go of the familiar…or do we open our hand and let go of that that relationship that we’ve been clinging to.

She makes it ok to realize that to flail around uncertainly for a season is all a part of discovering our destiny. Told with flair and handled with grace, this is one of those books that feels like it came out of your own head sometimes.

Eddie Corbano started this site after going through a painful breakup of his own. His premise? How do you stop loving someone? It is one of the most difficult decisions in life, to deliberately "un-love" your ex because you know it's the right thing to do. But HOW do we do it?

His newsletter and site have real world breakup tips and stories that will make you realize you really aren't alone in this.

When a relationship ends, the anguish and disappointment can be devastating. A broken heart can be genuinely traumatic and in Susan's book she reveals that heartbreak actually creates an opportunity for genuine emotional and spiritual transformation, enabling you to emerge on the other side stronger, softer, and capable of loving with renewed confidence.

We love her philosophy about how a heart is never so open as when it's broken open and you can use this time for extreme growth.

Your Tango is a website focused just on relationships and ending relationships. There are all kinds of great articles and links to browse through so take some time with this one.

The "it's not working" conversation just happened. Perhaps the conversation was one you initiated and your first feeling is relief. Maybe the breakup has left you totally devastated and barely able to function. No matter what the circumstances leading to the end of your relationship may be, you know it is an end and thus a loss.

We love their First 30 Days email newsletter that you can sign-up for - it sends you an email every day to help you navigate your breakup.

Randy Siegel really does talk to you like that best friend you wish you could talk to that will give you straight-forward advice without pulling any punches.

This is a fun and quick read that will leave you feeling inspired.

If you are thinking about getting back together - this is something to look at. Watch the video on this page and learn how to use text messages to connect.

Honestly - we got just as much out of this because to help you avoid wanting to text your current ex and think that you can use the info for your future relationships. No reconciliation required!

Simple wisdom for complex lives. Quotes, tips & stories to help us help ourselves and each other.

We love the thoughtful articles and quotes on Tiny Buddha - browse around the breakup advice but we're sure you'll also uncover some other areas of the site to get inspiration from.