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Break up Recovery - Breaking Down

This is the part that feels the worst. You’ve just suffered a break up and no matter who initiated it, it HURTS right now. The following resources will help you through this roughest of patches.

Conscious Uncoupling | Katherine Woodward Thomas | Evolving Wisdom

You may have heard of this in the news via a few celebrity breakups but there is a reason people are gravitating towards Katherine Woodward Thomas around relationship advice. Her program is meant to guide participants through a unique step-by-step process that will help you navigate the challenging terrain of the “break up” with grace, clarity and personal healing.

It's great stuff - and it's audio so you can listen whenever and wherever you can. Again - this is hard work but very worthwhile.

The No Contact Rule

You're trying to get over your ex, yet you're still in touch and have ended up being their back-up plan. Maybe you haven't left yet, but you want to and just don't know how. Maybe you're tired of doing the lather, rinse, repeat of getting back together and winding back at square one.

It's time to cut contact.

This guide from Natalie Lue is the perfect start to exploring what no contact can be for you and how it can help in your process of letting go of your ex.

Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You

We think Susan Elliott is a genius. Great No Contact advice, she really focuses on how the time during your breakup recovery can be the most powerful time to change your life for the better.


The EXaholics site is a great resource for finding advice from both experts and others that are going through or have gone through a breakup. Browse around and I guarantee you'll find some comments from other users that you can relate to - and it can help YOU a lot to give advice to others also!

Ritual in a Box - The Boyfriend Bonfire Box

We love that Ritual in a Box has created the Boyfriend Bonfire Box to support us through our breakups. They are designed to help you release what is bringing you down through self-reflection and inviting others in to celebrate and support you. Visit the site to see exactly what's included - our favorite were the wish papers!

How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting on with Your Life

This book from Howard Bronson and Mike Riley will help get you on the right track from the very beginning of your breakup. And if it's something that you've been struggling with getting over for a while - pick this up and commit to the 30 days and see how far it can take you.

It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Breakup Buddy

Love this from Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt. Their witty and straight talking advice will remind you of just what the title says - it was broken in some way shape or form. This will help you get in in touch with that so you can move on.

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

Pema Chodron has a beautiful practicality in her writings that can really put you in touch with your spiritual side.

Buddhist followers and those of you that have explored your spirituality will find her advice on healing from your breakup really uplifting...we did.

63 Steps to Survive The Worst Moments of Your Life

It’s one of those long “how to guide” posts except it kind of makes fun of long how-to guide posts and doesn't take itself seriously. After all, who the hell writes 63 steps to anything? Well, apparently Mark Manson did. It's fun. Some silliness mixed in with real, credible advice for dealing with the hard times in your life.

Give this a read when you're feeling really bad to get some much needed perspective.

'End of a Relationship' Hypnosis Audio Pack | Self Hypnosis Downloads

We found that hypnosis recordings can be really helpful when your mind just won't give you any peace. Especially helpful at night when you're not sleeping well. Nice that you can download them to your phone too so can listen wherever you are.

How To Get Over A Break-Up!

A Breakup. There is not much that feels worse than heartache from ending a romantic relationship. Although it feels awful right now, trust that you will be okay (and are okay even if you don't feel like it). Not all romantic relationships are supposed to last forever.

Christine Hassler has this and other articles and breakup tips on her site for when you need some inspiration.

The Single Woman's Sassy Survival Guide: Letting Go and Moving On

Mandy Hale does an amazing job at helping us answer the question: Do we cling to a situation that’s taking us under out of fear of letting go of the familiar…or do we open our hand and let go of that that relationship that we’ve been clinging to.

She makes it ok to realize that to flail around uncertainly for a season is all a part of discovering our destiny. Told with flair and handled with grace, this is one of those books that feels like it came out of your own head sometimes. - The Shortcut To Break-Up Recovery

Eddie Corbano started this site after going through a painful breakup of his own. His premise? How do you stop loving someone? It is one of the most difficult decisions in life, to deliberately "un-love" your ex because you know it's the right thing to do. But HOW do we do it?

His newsletter and site have real world breakup tips and stories that will make you realize you really aren't alone in this.

The Wisdom of a Broken Heart - Susan Piver

When a relationship ends, the anguish and disappointment can be devastating. A broken heart can be genuinely traumatic and in Susan's book she reveals that heartbreak actually creates an opportunity for genuine emotional and spiritual transformation, enabling you to emerge on the other side stronger, softer, and capable of loving with renewed confidence.

We love her philosophy about how a heart is never so open as when it's broken open and you can use this time for extreme growth.

Breakups & Divorce: Effects Of A Split And Advice For Getting Over It | YourTango

Your Tango is a website focused just on relationships and ending relationships. There are all kinds of great articles and links to browse through so take some time with this one.

The Breakup Workbook for Men: A Common Sense Guide to Getting Over Your Ex - a book by MJ Acharya

If you're not getting over your ex-girlfriend as easily as you had hoped, this book is for you. Instead of giving you crazy chick-type advice that you'll never use, The Breakup Workbook For Men offers advice that's tailor-made for your situation.

There isn't as much breakup advice for men out there so this is a great short read for guys.

The Breakup Workbook (for Women): A Common Sense Guide to Getting Over Your Ex

If you're trying to get over your ex, but don't know how, this book is for you. Instead of giving crazy advice that you'll never use, The Breakup Workbook: A Common Sense Guide to Getting Over Your Ex offers 33 easy-to-implement exercises that are tailored to your breakup situation.

Quick to read and easy to implement this is another great little guide for your arsenal.

Breaking Up - Inspiration & Expert Advice | First30Days

The "it's not working" conversation just happened. Perhaps the conversation was one you initiated and your first feeling is relief. Maybe the breakup has left you totally devastated and barely able to function. No matter what the circumstances leading to the end of your relationship may be, you know it is an end and thus a loss.

We love their First 30 Days email newsletter that you can sign-up for - it sends you an email every day to help you navigate your breakup.

Daily Meditations for Surviving a Breakup, Separation or Divorce - a book by Micki McWade

365 inspiring and supportive daily readings, quotes and affirmations will help you recover from the pain of a breakup, separation or divorce.

If you're into affirmations and meditation (or if you're looking to get into it) this is the perfect guide to help you focus your thoughts on healing.

Dumped: A Guys' Guide to Breakin' Up and Movin' On

"Dumped" is by a man, for men, and addresses the unique, gender-specific feelings, questions and challenges men face during this emotionally difficult time.

Another short guide for men specifically that speaks to the differences between how men and women handle breakups differently.

Break Up, Wake Up, Move On: Straight Talk from Everybody's Gay Best Friend

Randy Siegel really does talk to you like that best friend you wish you could talk to that will give you straight-forward advice without pulling any punches.

This is a fun and quick read that will leave you feeling inspired.

Evan Marc Katz | Why He Disappeared

Your last breakup caused months of painful second-guessing. Why did he pull away? What did I do wrong? Can I get him back? What do I do now? How can I make sure this doesn’t happen again? The reason you struggle to answer those questions is simple: you’re not a man. Therefore, you’ve never fully understood what your ex was thinking when he was dating you.

We really like the way Evan Marc Katz explains things - although frankly some of it is frustrating to hear.

3 Toxic Texts You Should Never Send Your Ex

If you are thinking about getting back together - this is something to look at. Watch the video on this page and learn how to use text messages to connect.

Honestly - we got just as much out of this because to help you avoid wanting to text your current ex and think that you can use the info for your future relationships. No reconciliation required!

Tiny Buddha | Breakup Articles

Simple wisdom for complex lives. Quotes, tips & stories to help us help ourselves and each other.

We love the thoughtful articles and quotes on Tiny Buddha - browse around the breakup advice but we're sure you'll also uncover some other areas of the site to get inspiration from.