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The initial meeting between surrogates and intended parents is an exciting milestone in the surrogacy process. While profiles provide helpful insights, meeting face-to-face—or via video—helps solidify the match and set the tone for the journey ahead. To make this meeting as smooth and meaningful as possible, here are nine practical tips to guide you.
Intended parents use surrogacy to start or grow their families when they can't do so on their own. Treat this meeting like an important first interaction. Review the surrogate’s or intended parents’ profile, and jot down questions or topics you'd like to address. Think about what you hope to learn and share during the conversation. A quick test of your video platform ahead of time ensures technical hiccups won’t get in the way.
Rather than outlining strict expectations, focus on understanding general habits and lifestyles. Intended parents should trust that surrogates rely on medical experts for guidance, which builds mutual trust from the start.
This is your chance to learn about each other. Ask thoughtful questions such as:
While it’s natural to have questions, keep the tone conversational and friendly. Remember, you’re here to connect, not to screen each other—agencies handle that aspect and abide by surrogacy requirements.
Clear communication is vital throughout the surrogacy journey. Share your preferences for how often and through what methods (e.g., calls, texts, in-person visits) you’d like to stay in touch. This is also a good time to discuss post-birth contact, if any.
Money matters are handled separately through legal processes and don’t belong in this initial conversation. Use this meeting to focus on building a personal connection.
Whether you’re an intended parent or surrogate, being open about your motivations helps lay the groundwork for a trusting relationship.
Everyone is likely nervous, so try to relax. Take a deep breath and keep the conversation casual. Focus on getting to know each other and ensuring your values and expectations align.
Honesty and authenticity are key to forming a genuine connection. Let the conversation flow naturally. Circle Surrogacy, Inc has a surrogacy matching process connecting surrogates and intended parents. By preparing thoughtfully and staying true to yourself, you can create a solid foundation for a successful partnership.
Circle Surrogacy is the nation's oldest full service surrogate-parenting agency serving clients worldwide.
