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If you feel like you have lost friends since becoming a mum - you are not alone
When you have a baby, your friendships change in unexpected ways. Here's how to enjoy your new 'mummy mates' and still keep your old 'pre-kid' friends. Your baby's arrival turned your world upside down in ways you never could have foreseen. But it's not just the number of nappies you...
by ELEANOR BAILEY Last updated at 17:01 18 January 2008 Having children can be a testing time for friends - especially when one is a have and the other a have-not. But can you stop a baby coming between you? What moved Frank Skinner to say: "David Baddiel has finally found something to be boring about"?
Just a few, short years ago, Jacinta Tynan's friends were career-driven, party girls who thought nothing of dancing until dawn, or taking off on a spontaneous weekend away. Now, thanks to their growing brood, these same friends are more likely to stay home discussing the minutiae of teething and toddler ballet than promotions and pay rises.
Edited below As promised, more Heavy and Really Sort Of Morose Blogging. Don't say I didn't warn you. If morose bores you, scroll back a post and reflect upon roller-skating, Steve Zissou, David Hasselhoff, and the retirement of the It's Not Easy Being Green Dancers...
When I was pregnant, I was often told that on becoming a parent I would lose three things that I had formerly taken for granted: my waist, my sleep and my friends. My waist has slowly made a post-baby return. Sleep is our friend once again. And my friends?
I can't get that sappy, sing-song ditty out of my head: "Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other gold."
Ok, so I am now starting to understand this phenomena. Before becoming a mom, I always thought that it was some sort of a misunderstanding. They didn't have kids, you did. They wanted to party still...you couldn't, etc etc. Well yesterday, my eyes were seriously opened.
I don't know about you, but I had a pretty tough time as a new mom. I missed sleep. I missed my body. I missed being able to go out to dinner at a nice restaurant or hop a plane to Vegas whenever I felt like it. Basically...I missed ME.
Over at Cafe Mom, Emily writes about meeting a friend for lunch soon after giving birth: "About three weeks after my son was born I went out to meet a friend for coffee.
J.D. answers from New York on March 08, 2007 T., You know those Johnson's commercials that say, "Having a baby changes everything"? They're not kidding. Becoming a parent not only changes our everyday lives, but they change our relationships, too. Your friend was probably not lying when she said she was jealous of your daughter.
Showing the Love to Girlfriends Who Are Moms Guest Blog by Susan Jackson Mother's Day can be kind of a mixed bag for moms. Sure, we love being recognized for all that we do for our families (which, let's face it, is pretty much everything). But the way we're recognized?
