Listly by Lerone Graham
Sales strategy is incredibly useful for learning how to become a better relationship partner.
No matter how you slice it, relationships today are struggling at best. According to statistics, people are getting divorced at a rate of about 50%.
Divorce aside, couples that stay together aren't necessarily faring much better. People are having problems communicating, staying in dead-end relationships and becoming more disillusioned with relationships by the day.
So how do you make things work? The answer is simple -- growth.
In order to achieve growth in your relationship, you need to use the emotions of the heart, with the finely tuned scientific and charismatic approach of a salesperson.
This means continuously learning your partner’s need and filling it in a mutual exchange in which you both win. Adopting this mindset is key for your growth together.
Read these tips and apply them to your relationship.
Take the Utmost Care of Yourself First
A salesman needs to not just sell the product, they should be the product.
There’s a reason that car salesmen are given a company car to take home and hairdressers often make sure their hair looks phenomenal. In order to get your point across, you need to create a real connection.
When you take care of yourself, the benefits will spill over into your relationship. In fact, you should think of your spouse or partner as your mirror. You affect each other and learn things about yourself through each other, so use this as a tool to get better, rather than to run from.
Make sure that you're getting real about the things holding you back from being your greatest self. Constantly audit so that you're able to make changes accordingly.
Give yourself a chance by starting with healthy life practice. Eat quality foods, workout every day and make sure that you're getting the best sleep possible. Studies also show that meditating for 20 minutes every day can have tremendous benefits for your health, mental sharpness, and overall well-being.
When you're your best self, you will bring your best self to your relationship, making it a win-win.
Get Strategic With Your Seduction -- Then Forget About Strategy
Most people don't put much thought into attraction. In this same regard, most people go about their sales process with blind enthusiasm, without honing their strategy.
In sales, you need to be able to honestly assess your performance, improve your listening skills and exercise empathy. Doesn’t this sound like the formula for a quality relationship also?
We feel as though love is supposed to be the end all, be all, and then feel guilty if we're not always on fire for our spouse. Trust and believe that attraction is something that has to be continuously cultivated.
Start by waking up every day with the assumption that you are dating your partner all over again. When you don't take each other for granted, you will have fresh eyes and feelings and will treat them accordingly.
Take the time to tease, flirt and build tension. Take time every day to engage in this dance, making sure that you're strategic about creating feelings in each other.
However, once you're both flirty and on board with the dance, throw strategy out the window. The last thing you would want is to be robotic during the seduction process.
Routinely Change Your Scenery
Finally, take time to get away for a bit sometimes. Sales professionals go to retreats and seminars to sharpen their skills and learn something new. The same can apply to your relationship.
Even planning a staycation in a hotel you've never been inside before is better than getting stuck in a rut.
Comfort is the best part about relationships, but at the same time, familiarity breeds contempt. Plan vacations, have date nights and do new activities together to keep things fresh.
Consider these tips so that you can improve your relationship by leaps and bounds.