Another option is for each parent to spend certain designated holidays with his or her children. For example, the children may spend every Independence Day with one parent and every Thanksgiving with the other. This eliminates any potential confusion about “who’s year” it is for a particular holiday, but it also means that each parent will miss out on certain experiences entirely.
A good solution for some parents is to alternate holidays on an annual basis. If you celebrate four holidays, for example, one parent would spend the first and third holidays with the couple’s children during the first year after the divorce, and then he or she would spend the second and fourth holidays with the children the following year.