10 Self Improvement TRAPS

The changes you want to make are not that important to you, but you are doing it for someone else. You spend excessive time focusing on "other people" and what they think you should be and not nearly enough time on figuring out for yourself what you would like to be. Wanting to please others is not necessarily a bad thing. It is ok to want to be a better parent, a better spouse, or a better employee. But if all your attempts at self-improvement are focused on gaining the approval of other people, you are setting yourself up for disappointment and also failure. If you are not invested in the change for yourself, your motivation will lag and it will be difficult to meet the goals you have set.

You do not want to just improve. You want to be perfect. Without flaws or blemishes. Realistic? No, but many people fall into this trap. No mater what you achieve, it is never good enough. There is always something more to be done. You can never be at rest. You can never be satisfied with the way things are. You stress yourself out. You exhaust yourself and for what? The unachievable goal of perfection.