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Updated by jeffrin turner on Oct 11, 2017
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how to stop silent treatment

The silent treatment is given when we are hurt and we think that words at that point of time will not be able to heal you. Do you know what to do when your partner gives you the silent treatment? Explore these 6 things!

When you give your partner a silent treatment, you are inviting more problems to depress your relationship further. A lot of times, partners do not realize what wrong they have done, and if you do not tell them what has hurt you, then it will leave room for speculation and confusion. Your partner will not be able to do anything until they know what they have done.

If things do not get solved your partner will probably start lying to you because they would not dare to say anything that might offend you again and ultimately get another silent treatment. So, it is better to talk to them about what hurts rather than allowing your partner to speculate the reasons. If your partner is not able to speak their mind with you, then trust issues will arise for sure.

Your relationship now has trust issues and confusion. Your partner will find it better to ignore you and can ultimately decide to leave you. If you prolong the silence, because you are not in the mood, it can result at the end of your relationship because they find it hard to talk to you about anything.

Talk! Talk! Talk!

The emphasis should be on communication. If you do not talk, then the issues that you have will grow bigger than they already are. It is very important to clear your misunderstandings before things turn uncomfortable for your relationship. Find the right moment to talk to your partner. They will avoid your messages and calls, but you have to make sure that you talk to them at any condition. Meet your partner and ask them what has hurt them so much. Unless you talk, the silent treatment will continue.

Apologize

When you get a chance to talk to them, do not wait for another minute to apologize to them. Ask for their forgiveness with all your heart. Try and make it up to them. Promise them that you will never repeat your mistake. Do not apologize only for what you said to them but also for the reason you were fighting. Tell them you took time to talk because you wanted to give them space.

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Listen

Listen

You are not going to meet your partner only for asking them what hurt them or to tell that you are sorry. You have to listen to what they think about you. Do not make it only about the recent fight but talk about all the fights you have had, the future of your relationship. Listen to what they have to say about you and your place in their life. Know them know what you have been missing till now. Listen to all their complaints about you. Just pay attention to what they want to convey even if you do not understand.

Express Your Feelings

After listening to what they have to say to you about the relationship, tell them what you feel. A relationship works with mutual understanding, and the efforts have to be made by both of the partners. So it is your turn to express your feelings if you have not been expressive with them. If you do not do it today, then you may not get any better opportunity again. So make use of it and express your love for your partner. Tell them how much you love them and that offending them would be the last thing on your list. You care for your partner and show it to them. Show your concern, and your partner will definitely understand.

Be Consistent

If your partner says that they have forgiven you it does not mean that they got over it. Apparently, they will wait and observe everything that you do next. They will wait to see if you change or not. So do not just apologize and get over it. Change whatever made you and your partner fight and be consistent in that change. If you do it for a few days and start thinking that everything will be all right, then it won’t so keep practicing until it becomes a part of you. Changing for your partner does not mean that you change your personality, but it is changing some of your qualities that are making you a bad person. If you change then it will not be for them; it will be better for you even if they do not stay in your life forever.

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Learn

Learn

Take the incident as a lesson life has given you. Learn from this episode and keep it in your memory forever. The fight made you look like a bad person and somewhere you became one. You cursed and got cursed. Fights do not give anything materialistic, but they do teach you lessons about the importance of being patient and being more expressive. It teaches you about your attitude and behavior. You get to know what makes you a bad person and then you can change it. You know what makes you good and you can keep that habit with yourself. It is not just about you it is also about your partner. You get to know how much you love your partner and what their qualities are. You get to know about their dislikes, what offends them and in the process of getting their apology, you will also learn what they like and what makes them happy.