george-wolfson
This post is about what was best for me, how I dealt with it, and what I learned from it. If you are anything like me, then I hope this helps!
I wanted my first post to be about one of the first things I thought about it college: my high school boyfriend.
SO, you are done with your senior year of high school, and you got into the college of your choice and are super excited. Everything seems to be going for you except one thing: your boyfriend that you are crazy about is going to college millions of miles away (or so it seems). You have yet to have the talk with him about what in the hell you guys are going to do. Sound familiar? If so, dont freak out.
People always say, Long distance relationships never last, or You need to be free in college, be single, nothing holding you back. People will root for you guys to break up because its best for you and they want you to have the college experience. They may have a good point, but its your life and you will do what you want. Everyone else can just mind their own business. They dont know what your relationship is like. If its anything like mine, its been the best experience of my life and I wouldnt trade it or him for anything/anyone else. I did however, follow along with my heart when I went to college, which was to not have a boyfriend at first. Ive always told myself that I would let go of any strings I had attached with anyone when I went to college and that I just wanted a fresh start. I soon found out, however, that I needed some of those strings.
The biggest thing that sucked about the long distance thing, obviously, was him just not being there! He couldnt put my arm around me or see that something was wrong and I couldnt see his cute little grin that made my days or run and jump into his arms like I usually do. No. Our whole relationship basically relied on technology. So, it takes a lot to adjust to. SInce he wasnt there, every text that I got from him was the most exciting part of my day, and every skype date was something to look forward to because that was the only time of the day I could see his face. Because of this, it was really frustrating if one of us was busy and couldnt skype or call each other, or if one person didnt text the other person back for a while-it would seem as if one person is more busy or having more fun than the other. Relationships through technology suck and are so confusing! But, they are doable if you are up for the challenge. Heres what Ive learned from mine:
My boyfriend on one of our many skype dates
1. Set up skype dates throughout the week. To have more free time working with computer, I write my essay works with 24 hour essay on time writing service in australia . You both should set aside time every week where you can talk to each other with limited distractions. You could even watch a movie together during skype and talk about it as if you are really together! I know its cheesy, but it helps a lot.
2. Dont rely on just texting to communicate with each other. Its hard for either person to text back right away and texting always confuses people because you never know what kind of mood they are in. Try setting up phone dates too or calling each other randomly and leaving a voicemail! Those little things can help you get through the week.
3. Send each other mail. Like actual mail-the kind you can touch/hold. I know its a little old school, but receiving mail in college is like the most exciting thing ever-college kids literally will scream if they found out they got mail (this is kind of an exaggeration but you get my point). If you send something to your boyfriend, it will be way more special than a text or phone call because its something you actually wrapped/wrote/held with your own two hands and now hes holding it at his college 8 hrs away! BOYFRIENDS-if you are reading thisDO send your girlfriends letters. They will charish them forever. Girls love that old school notebook style fairytale. And they really do come true.
4. Focus on whats in front of you. Really. I know it sucks that your boyfriend/girlfriend isnt there with you, but thats how it is and you are going to have to get over it! Dont dwell on what you cant change. Instead, focus on what you can change. Like, school and friends and your social life! It is very important to have a social life and you want to make sure having a boyfriend doesnt change that. Surrounding yourself with friends and people you like will help a lot, especially if they dont have boyfriends there with them. Nights are especially the worst I foundwhen you are in your bed, still awake, and you just want your boyfriend there to cuddle with you because you are on your own now and that would be allowed. But, just distract yourselflisten to music, have a sleep over at your friends house-whatever you have to do to get your mind off of it. Keep yourself busy. Have a schedule. Be productive. It helps, seriously. And it also feels great when you talk to him next because then you will have so much to tell him!
5. If you can, visit each other. Plan a set date on weekend that you can both look forward to. Then just spend the day together and have him meet your friends that you made too!
6. Just breathe. Sometimes it will be hard, but you will get through it. You have to. You will figure out whats right for you and what works and what doesnt.
***The main thing is communication. Tell him whats going on, and he should tell you too. Dont ever go to bed madif somethings wrong, then talk to him about it. It will eat at you everyday until you finally go off like a crazy bitch. If you feel like somethings up, stop and talk about it. right now. dont wait.
The bottom line is, your life is what you make it. If this relationship just isnt working for you even though you still really love him, then you dont have to do it right now. No one says you two cant work it out later on in life or even the next year. Do whats best for you, right now. Just because you cant deal with a long distance relationship now doesnt mean you wont ever be able to again. College is hard, and you become who you really are in these years. So you have to listen to your heart. On the other hand, if you guys are doing great and have minimal problems, why change that? Do what you need to make yourself happy. Dont worry about your future with this guy/girlif its meant to be, it will be. Take one step at a time.
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