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Updated by Expedition Self on Aug 31, 2017
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Top 10 Ways to Create Intimacy

Wanting to be the artist and creator of having more intimacy in life. These are 10 ways to think, conversation starters and actions that you can take to make it happen.

1

Give up "Being Right"

Give up "Being Right"

Being right often means much more to our sense of identity than being profoundly related to another human being - which creates a deeper sense of Self.

2

Get Into the Other Person's World - Completely

Get Into the Other Person's World - Completely

Oh... this is a hard one! It's more than just relating from your experience. Their world has to be truly related to as you imagine yourself being "them" and why their perspective, position or feelings actually make sense or are valid.

3

Own Up to Something Private

Own Up to Something Private

This one\'s important. Own up, share and reveal things you\'ve been keeping to yourself, thoughts you\'ve had that seemed too private and parts of yourself that you think give others power or room to judge you.

4

Let the Other Person Off of the Hook

Let the Other Person Off of the Hook

When we assume real responsibility for how it goes in a relationship we\'re able to let them \"off the hook\" - from our expectations, feelings & reactions.

5

Talk, Talk & Talk Some More

Talk, Talk & Talk Some More

So often we begin to withhold as a way of managing hurt and resentment - being committed to sharing and talking things through guarantees a new level of intimacy.

6

Admit to Yourself That You Want More Intimacy

Admit to Yourself That You Want More Intimacy

So much of the act of creation begins with choosing, committing and engaging our intention. The minute you truly you decide you want more intimacy, you\'ll start seeing the little things that interfere with you having it.

7

Find Places In Your Heart Where You've Closed Down

Find Places In Your Heart Where You've Closed Down

Resentment, Hurt, Disappointment, Betrayal and Jealousy are often legitimate reasons to start protecting ourselves. What we don\'t realize is that a closed heart is a sure way to begin limiting intimacy and ultimately to ending or shutting down in relationship.

8

Stop Judging The Other When You Feel Something

Stop Judging The Other When You Feel Something

We don\'t like to feel - this translates into blaming the other person for making us feel when we don\'t want to and judging them in some way for being the source of those lousy feelings. The most important way to deepen intimacy is to stop blaming and judging the other person for their impact on your psyche.

9

Share More About How You Came to be You

Share More About How You Came to be You

Sometimes it doesn\'t feel safe and other times we just don\'t realize it matters - but our history can make a huge difference in weaving a more intimate space for us to operate within. The side benefit is that this \"space\" also encourages us to explore and understand the other person\'s life story, too. It\'s a win-win.

10

Tell Them Why They Matter In Your Life - Daily

Tell Them Why They Matter In Your Life - Daily

We make the assumption that once someone knows they matter to us - that it\'s just accepted as true. But bringing it to life, riding the wave of intimacy means that we share new insights and slivers of the very special way that the other person makes a difference. It helps them realize that they matter and they make a difference for you.